You see I have this son who loves sports and his basketball team fell apart this year. How do I know that we did the right thing by putting him on a team that we knew nothing about? We don't know the coaches, we only know one other player, and once again I see frustration all over his face when he is out there. How do I keep him from being discouraged? How do I keep him from frustration? How do I teach him to stop being so hard on himself?
How do you know that as a parent you are doing the right things with your children?
You see I have this son who is 5 and is having a hard time figuring out where he belongs. He wants to play sports until it comes down to signing up. He wants to get involved in things but doesn't know what that is. How do I help him figure it out? How do I help him find things that he enjoys like his brother? How do I make him understand that he is just as special as Caden, even if he never decides to play sports? Reece is my kid that just entertains himself and plays for hours by himself and I sometimes wonder if he feels left out. How will all of this effect him? I've been asked several times if I worry about Reece and the answer is always yes. Yes! I do worry about him in so many ways it keeps me up at night.
How do you ever know that what you are doing for your children is what you are suppose to be doing?
You see I have 2 boys one totally different than the other. How do you know that you are doing both of them right? How do you know if in the end it's all gonna work out alright? How do you keep your heart from breaking every time you see theirs break? How do you make sure that they know that it's okay to be who they are and to be happy with that?
How do you know if you are doing the right thing?
Sometimes I wish parenthood came with an instruction manual because today, I feel like I am failing!!
First you do the right thing all the time, maybe it doesn't look like it at the time but it always comes back ok...Caden might struggle with a new time but he will still be Caden and a great athlete he is young give him time...Reece, let him be...sports, dirt, playing with tractors, let him be, one of these days it will click and all of you will know what he needs and wants...you have 3 great kids and sometimes we need to know that it all will be ok and in them times we just don't find the answers, someday you will! HUGS...Lisa Bryce
ReplyDeleteTrasie and Phil, There is an instruction book...it is God's Word. Read it, teach it to your boys and daughter, train them in the things of God. Remind them that they were created by the Maker of the universe and He has a plan for them. Love them, encourage them, and let them find their way. Part of the maturing process is letting our kids fail, try again and even fail again. When they are grown, we must take our hands off and let God be their guide. It is really hard as a parent of a grown-up but I know I did everything I knew to do for my daughter and now I have to let her be HIS!...she was on loan to Bob and me a short time. We gave all we could in pointing her to HIM. You're doing a great job! Don't let the enemy take that joy from you and put your faith in Him who knows more than you'll ever know. Love you all!!!! Aunt Deb
ReplyDeleteAwww, you are doing a perfect job!!
ReplyDeleteIt's never easy.
And I share those same concerns.
It's my girl who's awkard and not athletic. A bit clumsy.
And my boy who's crazy talented, but painfully shy and sweet.
*sigh*
The fact that you recognize this and stay up worrying, means you are doing exactly the right things. :) God chose YOU to be mom to these amazing kids!!
Oh my friend. I don't think you'll ever know what an amazing mom you are. Your aunt Deb is ... can I just say ... INSPIRING! She hit it on the head. We must leave everything up to Him and just LOVE and ECOURAGE them.
ReplyDeleteand pray ... lots and lots of prayers:-)
I love you, Girlfriend! YOU are AMAZING!
OK, so I was going to try and say something amazing to let you know how much I think of you and what an AWESOME mother and all around person you are, but, everyone else pretty much covered it. Your Aund Deb hit it on the head!! And the fact that you recognize your kids as individuals, and you worry about it, makes you the best mom EVER!! You know I love you and I'm always in your corner. You are AWESOME!!! now go to sleep!!!!!! Tracy
ReplyDeleteGosh Trasie . . . This one hit home for me . . I know exactly what you mean!! Just know a parents we always do the best for our kids . . . I guess we too must come to the conclusion that they are individuals and will find their own things to like and be good at!! All we can do is provide them the opportunities to try things, like things, excel at things and more importantly fail at things so that we can pick them up . . love them and keep on truckin'!
ReplyDeleteLove ya girl . . Jen Schroeder